Have you felt, at times, that you just can't forgive yourself? Well, we've all had those times in our lives and Natural Solutions Magazine had some tips to help you on the way to healing through forgiving...yourself!
When I decided to go on a totally plant-based diet last September, I vowed to stick with it. And I have for 99% of the time. That other 1% of the time, when I did have a slice of pizza or some part of a meal which had dairy or chicken in it, I felt very guilty. But I've learned, over the year, that it's best to just let it go and remember the Fourth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements," -- Always Do Your Best. So, that's what I do now.
Below are a few tricks to getting over beating yourself up at times; like after eating too much dessert, having a quarrel with your loved one or shirking responsibility at work.
Remember...Learn from your mistakes and stop self-destructive thinking by following these tips.
Seek understanding » Many of us simply say we’re sorry when we slip up, but sometimes that’s not enough. It helps to think of forgiveness more as a process than something instantaneous. Rather than apologizing to your kids for yelling at them, for instance, ask them to forgive you and work to forgive yourself. In addition, forgive them for whatever role they played in your anger.
Find the lesson » Recognize that we’re all human and that you did your best with the tools and information you had at the time. Then ask yourself what you can do to improve the situation next time.
Visualize action » At the end of the day, picture everyone you love, and imagine saying to them, “I forgive you; please forgive me, too” while taking deep, calming breaths. Focusing on forgiveness instead of rehashing the conflict gives you a sense of peace."
Self-criticism can literally make us sick, rob us of sleep and sap our energy. Learn something valuable from the mistake, and move on!